10 Feb How to Balance Work & Home
Whether you have just had your first baby or even your third and you are returning to work, there is a delicate balance that all mums must achieve in order to stay sane and positive about all the changes and expectations in their lives. It is never easy to leave your child in the care of another person while you return to your career. The decision may be out of necessity (needing the income) or desire (you really love what you do). Whatever the reason, when you are a working mum, you know that it is a challenge. What you also need to know is that it doesn’t have to be a negative challenge; this can be a time of growth for you and your children with just a bit of planning.
In order to achieve balance, there are a few secrets you should know. These secrets will help you and your family achieve a calmer and more satisfying daily routine.
Secret #1- Develop a network of trusted individuals
This will include the nursery you choose, the emergency contacts you use and the backup plans you put in place to ensure that your day runs smoothly. There is nothing worse than presenting for a large convention while someone is trying to contact you because your child has become ill. With the support network you have meticulously set up already, you have the option of calling someone as a backup to pick your child up for you while you finish the work at hand, so that you can effectively be all things to all people.
Secret #2- Organise your life
If you aren’t already using a planner of some sort, now is the time to really get used to the idea. Have a planner and incorporate your daily responsibilities, upcoming events, and be sure to schedule in your personal needs, a quick coffee date or gym time as necessary. When you can see your life laid out on paper, it is easier to break it into chunks and conquer each day without feeling overwhelmed. It is also imperative tool to use when you have children, so that you are able to keep track of doctor appointments, play dates, school closing dates and the like. Being organised helps get the junk out of your brain and onto paper and it can do wonders for stress relief.
Secret #3- Plan ahead
A person who plans ahead are the best equipped to deal with life because they have a plan in place. This should extend into every area of a mum’s life. Plan your outfit for work (making sure to always have a backup because inevitably someone will throw up, wipe snot, or otherwise mess on your outfit). Plan your lunch during work days so you aren’t consistently breaking the bank. Plan your dinners in advance because often, even when we share the weight with our partners, we are still expected to be the homemakers (slow cookers are indispensable here). Plan by having the nappy bag packed the night before, and if you have a school-aged child as well, have their belongings packed and ready by the door. Be sure mobile phones are charged and life’s necessities are all lined up before you lay your head down at night.
Secret #4- Put up boundaries
This one may be the most difficult, yet most important secret of all. You need to figure out how to separate your home life and work life and keep those boundaries clear. Some of the most stressed mums out there are ones who have blurred lines between the two realms and are unable to clearly define boundaries. This means you have work hours and family hours, if you need to tend to work during off hours, set up a specific time to do so. For instance, if you need to check emails even after office hours set a time to do so, say an hour after the children go to bed so that you are not constantly distracted by the notifications on your phone, tablet or computer during the precious time you have with your children. When you are with your children, be totally present in all sense of the word, and when you are at work, be totally present, then you can give 100% to both roles without feeling guilty.
There you have it, 4 of the secrets are out. When you assume the role of mother and career woman you have taken on a lofty goal, but it is an attainable one. You can feel empowered by the roles you are serving and do it masterfully by just employing a few of these secrets. Before you know it, you will have become so skilful at this delicate balance that you will be able to encourage and empower another woman to do the same.